Being positive is not necessary being positive all the time.

Life is full of dilemmas. A simple life is hard to achieve. It’s even harder they others view things in a very complicated way. It is definitely hard to please everyone. A kind gesture can been seen as evil if one decides to see it another way.

Evidently, one can be affected by such dilemmas but be reminded that no one can make you happy other than yourself.

I like reading “The Confidence Guy” blog by Steve Errey. His recent post on “QA: How Do I Stay Positive?” is quite intriging. It is different from all the “be positive” pep talks that I have heard. 

“Pretending that I’m ‘up’ all the time or thinking that I’m not allowed to be down is not going to get me anywhere. And it would be really annoying for everyone else…The key is to acknowledge what’s happening and your experience of it – if you feel crappy then feel crappy, if you feel good then feel good – and then be willing to make a choice. That willingness to experience the bad and the good is a huge piece of what confidence is…Positive thinking isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, so don’t get hung up on not being positive all the time.” – Steve Errey

I realised that this have been the approach that I have been taking, just that I can be really whiny at times and sometime I am unable to see the other perspective.

So, I will try and see things in 2 different perspectives and be less whiny. However, I will not do things against my personal beliefs. I will not go up to someone and say “You look great today!” when it is not. I will still continue to say things like “Did you just do something to your hair, or is it just a bad hair day?” or “Did you wake up late today? You eyeliner looks ‘off’!”